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The Golden Solution To a Love Triangle

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By Savva Smith
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Master the Tactics to Overcome Your Rival and Reclaim Your Partner's Affection

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You will learn:

Time-tested way of winning in a love triangle situation
Two spectacular ways to make your grand exit from a love triangle
The hidden secrets to rekindle your partner's interest
Have you ever found yourself in a love triangle, feeling like you're running in a race where the finish line keeps moving? Like you're just part of someone else's entertainment? It's like a game where two people are chasing the same prize. Feelings of jealousy and competition bubble up. I know how that feels because I've been there. It's a tough spot to be in. But what if I told you there's a way to turn the tables? A way to make yourself the prize instead? Let me explain:

The hidden desires: what really drives people into love triangles?

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To really get why love triangles happen, we need to know the main reasons behind them. A lot of people come to me guessing why their partners cheated. They tell me things their partners said like:

  • "I wanted to feel better about myself."
  • "I was seeking more variety."
  • "I was simply drunk."
  • "I felt neglected by you."
  • "I wanted to escape our everyday reality."
  • "I felt sympathy for that person."
  • "You weren't good enough for me."
However, what I've observed is that these articulated reasons typically only scratch the surface. They might be given just to provide some justification. Often, the individual at the center of the love triangle doesn't fully comprehend their own motives. It's more of an instinctive pull, an irresistible urge. Based on my experience, the actual reasons usually boil down to the following:

  1. Complacency: They aren't afraid of losing you. Over time, they've become so accustomed to your presence that they believe they can engage in an affair without any significant repercussions. Even if you become upset, they assume you'll eventually forgive them.
  2. Diminishing Attraction: Being overly familiar, predictable, or exceedingly caring can sometimes lead to a waned sense of attraction. The initial spark fades.
  3. Inherent Character Flaw: There might be an underlying trait in their personality that makes them rationalize the idea of seeking an affair.
These are the three primary enablers of an affair. This is why tactics such as "fighting for them" or "trying to convince them through dialogue" often prove ineffective. They inadvertently feed into the first two factors. If you're constantly vying for their attention, why would they fear losing you? Moreover, if you're so invested in getting them back, it only reinforces the idea that you're forgiving and will continue to care, regardless of their actions.

Now that we understand the actual reasons, we can create the most effective solution to a love triangle:

The time-tested way to win a love triangle situation

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The key is to reinstate a sense of value and self-worth in your relationship. By feeling indispensable and always available, your partner may have taken you for granted. To change this perception, you need to reassert your independence and value in the relationship. This will not only improve your self-worth but will also subtly communicate that your world doesn't revolve solely around them. Remember the days when everything was new and exciting between you two? Those initial conversations, dates, or adventures that brought you closer? It's about reintroducing some unpredictability and spontaneity in your relationship. Plan surprise dates, take up activities together that you've never tried before (like dance lessons or hiking), or even take breaks to miss each other a little. Your partner should be reminded of the thrill that existed when the relationship began.

Now, how do we employ these strategies in real life? Do we confront the third person in this triangle head-on? Or do we engage in long, emotional discussions, rehashing every little detail of the affair? Neither.

Taking decisive, unwavering actions is key. And the ultimate game-changer? Drawing a clear line in the sand and unflinchingly crossing it. By decisively distancing yourself, you broadcast an undeniable message of self-respect and independence. This bold shift doesn't just stir the pot - it upends it, forcing your partner to grapple with their swirling emotions and the looming threat of your absence. In their introspection, the depth and significance of your bond become glaringly clear, prompting a reevaluation of their choices. Your "rival"? Suddenly they're just background noise - readily at your partner's disposal, while you've ascended to an elusive, captivating pedestal. So, how do you masterfully execute this departure?

The two spectacular ways to quit the love triangle

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Based on my experience, taking a step back from such entanglements can work wonders, and here's how you can go about it:

  1. Quiet Departure: Without making it dramatic, simply decide to distance yourself. Don't make a scene, don't send long texts; just reduce your presence. This isn't about giving them the cold shoulder or punishing them; it's about demonstrating your self-respect. Your silence can speak volumes. For instance, if you're used to calling them every evening, stop that. If you always reply to their texts instantly, take your time or even skip some replies. It's about demonstrating that you're not just available at their beck and call.
  2. The Dramatic Farewell: This method is slightly theatrical but effective if done right. Imagine organizing a memorable date - maybe at a place that holds sentimental value for both of you. Let everything be impeccable. Let the evening flow, let the sentiments peak, and just when they're soaking in the joy, drop your heartfelt message: "Tonight was about making memories, one last time. I can't continue with the way things are with your new 'friend'. This isn't the relationship I envisioned. I need to end this."
The crux of this method is what follows. After delivering your message, stand firm. If they try to seek explanations or plead, maintain your stance. A simple, "I do not think it's a good idea to discuss this now," can be your go-to response. Then, strictly maintain a period of no contact.

I've coached many through such situations and have observed that the latter approach, especially, leaves a lingering impact. The emotional roller-coaster they experience - from a perfect evening to an unexpected break - stays with them, making them reevaluate everything. In essence, both strategies are about reestablishing your worth and making them realize that their actions have consequences.

Should you confront your "rival"?

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Taking on a love rival headfirst can feel like the right approach, but it rarely yields positive outcomes. Battling for someone's affection or trying to cut ties between your partner and their new "interest" isn't just fruitless; it's unhealthy.

It's easy to forget our worth when life's daily grind overshadows our uniqueness. We sometimes get lost in routines, responsibilities, and dramas. Yet, pausing and revisiting our core essence can be revitalizing. Here's a gentle reminder of who you truly are:
You are confident and independent
You deserve a loving partner
You do not participate in stupid games
Every single day of your life you're becoming stronger
The very fact you landed on this page speaks volumes. You're on the right track. This platform is a reservoir of empowerment and knowledge. Your journey here is an indicator that you're ready for positive change and growth. There's only forward from here.

The thing is, your "rival" might not even know you exist or think your partner is unattached. Many have tried explaining their relationship dynamics to their partner's "friend" only to see unchanged behavior. Understandably, you cannot police their conversations without crossing moral and legal boundaries. And even if, for argument's sake, your "rival" decides to back off, your partner might view your interference as controlling. This not only sours the relationship but also hands them an upper hand, making you seem less appealing.

Choosing to step back from this triangle is a power move. Suddenly, you're not the "available" one but the elusive enigma, always a more attractive proposition. Moreover, making it clear that you won't entertain disloyalty shows you're someone with a strong moral compass and self-worth. Such attributes often draw people in, especially if they're used to calling the shots in the relationship.

After you quit: what comes next in your love triangle journey?

I get it, the lingering question on your mind: what's the next step? How do you mend your emotional wounds and rekindle that once vibrant attraction? Trust me, I've been there, and I'm here to guide you every step of the way. The path ahead? It's called the "no contact" journey.

As you embrace no contact, your partner will navigate its 5 stages. They'll soon recognize that your standards for a relationship aren't just empty words - they're backed by solid, unwavering action. It's only when they truly grasp the weight of a life without your affection and commitment that genuine change can occur.

Need a compass for your no contact journey? Look no further. I have the perfect guide to help you traverse this uncharted terrain. And guess what? It's yours to claim, absolutely free. It's your chance to break free from the draining games of love and stride confidently into a world where you call the shots. Just enter your email below, and your free guide will be on its way:
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Key Points

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Before reacting, comprehend the deep-seated reasons behind your partner's involvement in a love triangle. Recognize that surface explanations often mask deeper issues.
The most influential step you can take is to assertively distance yourself. By doing so, you not only highlight your self-worth but also force your partner to reflect on the relationship's significance, ultimately making them question their actions.
Instead of confrontations or seeking answers, adopt a "no contact" approach. This silence speaks louder than words, triggering introspection in your partner, while also allowing you to heal and reaffirm your value.
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