Top 4 Challenges Of A Long-Distance Relationship

Savva Smith
Entrepreneur, Coach


Mastering The Top Challenges Of Maintaining A Long-Distance Relationship


You will learn:

Major challenges you will face if you decide to participate in a long-distance relationship
The most common long-distance relationship development scenario to avoid
Oh, a long-distance relationship. You get to spend most of your time cuddled up in bed with your phone, instead of your actual partner. It's just overflowing with anticipation, waiting for those rare moments when you get to see each other for a few precious hours, or even an entire vacation. And then, it's back to reality - alone in bed with your phone again.

If you're considering starting a long-distance relationship or you're already in one, it's important to understand some of the unique challenges that come with this type of relationship.

Why it's so tempting to have a long-distance partner

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One of the main reasons why long-distance relationships can be tempting is that when you don't see each other often, every meeting becomes a reward. The anticipation of finally being able to see your partner again can be incredibly exciting, and the time you do get to spend together can feel even more special because it is limited. This can create a strong sense of connection and deep appreciation for one another.

Another reason long-distance relationships can be tempting is that they allow for a lot of fantasizing. When you're not able to see each other on a regular basis, it's easy to romanticize the times you do get to spend together. You may find yourself imagining all the wonderful things you'll do and the intimacy you'll share, which can be incredibly alluring.

It's not uncommon for people to fall in love over distance. When you're not able to see each other in person, you may find yourself relying more on communication and emotional connection to build your relationship. This can create a strong bond and make it easy to fall in love.

it's tempting to think that a long-distance relationship will always be like this, with the excitement of anticipation and deep appreciation for the time you do get to spend together.

1. The difficulty of maintaining a deep connection from a distance

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One of the biggest challenges of being in a long-distance relationship is that you can't test your compatibility in the same way you would if you were living in the same place. When you're in close proximity, it's easier to get a sense of how compatible you are with your partner. You can see how they handle conflicts, how they spend their time, and how they interact with others. When you're on a distance, you don't have the same opportunities to observe these things. As a result, it can be more difficult to know if you're truly compatible.

2. The illusion of a perfect relationship

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One specific challenge is that it can be easy to fall into the illusion that everything is going well in the relationship. When you are not around each other, you may only communicate through text, phone calls, or video calls, which can give a skewed view of the relationship. There may be conflicts or issues that arise, but because you are not physically present to witness them, you may not be aware of them. As a result, it may feel like everything is going smoothly, even if there are underlying problems that need to be addressed.

When you do finally have the opportunity to be together in person, these issues may come to the surface, leading to conflicts and possibly even the end of the relationship.

3. The stress of competing with other people in close proximity to your partner

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One of the biggest sources of stress in long-distance relationships is the constant competition with people who are in close contact with your partner. These people may be friends, coworkers, or even romantic interests. When you're not around, it's natural to worry about what your partner is doing and who they're spending time with. This can lead to feelings of insecurity and jealousy. Simply speaking, your like on their Instagram will never be able to truly compete with a warm hand over the shoulder.

4. The challenge of taking care of each other from a distance

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Another challenge of long-distance relationships is the lack of opportunities to take care of each other. When you're in the same place, it's easier to do things like bring your partner soup when they're sick. When you're on a distance, these opportunities are fewer and farther between. This can make it harder to establish the deep connections that are so important in any relationship.

The typical progression of a long distance relationship

In a traditional relationship, couples have the opportunity to see each other on a daily or weekly basis, which allows them to develop a deeper connection and understanding of one another. They are able to support and take care of each other in a more tangible way, whether it's through small acts of kindness like making dinner or picking up groceries, or through more significant gestures like helping each other through a difficult time. They are also able to work through conflicts and challenges in real-time, which can help to strengthen the relationship.

On the other hand, long-distance relationships require more effort and commitment to maintain. Without the ability to see each other regularly, couples must rely on technology and other forms of communication to stay connected. While this can be a great way to keep in touch, it can also create a feeling of disconnection or distance between partners. Additionally, couples in long-distance relationships may have to contend with the stress of competing with other people who are in close proximity to their partner, as well as the challenges of trying to take care of each other from a distance.

A typical scenario in long-distance relationships includes three stages:
to chat online or talk on the phone for a few months or even years, with occasional visits in between
Eventually, one person might decide to move in with the other in an attempt to take the relationship to the next level
break up shortly after one person moves in with the other
Can we avoid this scenario? Sure. In future articles, I'll discuss basic techniques you can use. Keep in mind that soft measures won't help restore the power balance between you and your partner if they are already distant and close to ending the relationship. Either no contact or ignoring will be used.


Key Points

If you choose to be in a long-distance relationship, you will face challenges that are not typically present in relationships where both partners are geographically close to each other.
The major challenges are: maintaining a deep connection from a distance; illusion of a perfect relationship; stress of competing with other people in close proximity to your partner; the challenge of taking care of each other from a distance
In general, long-distance relationships tend to be shorter in duration than geographically close relationships