Will No Contact Work After Begging?

S. Smith
Relationship Psychology Tactician


Can the No Contact Strategy Overcome Past Begging Attempts?


You will learn:

The importance of subjective value in relationships and how it impacts the chances of winning an ex back
The detrimental effects of begging on your positioning, subjective value, and the likelihood of a successful reconciliation
The psychological impact of begging on your ex, including perceived desperation, lowered subjective value, eroding respect, reinforcing their decision, and the potential for manipulation
The end of a relationship can leave you feeling lost and desperate to win your ex back. Many resort to begging, which often does more harm than good. But what if you've already begged, and now you're wondering if the no contact rule can still work for you? You're in the right place.

In this article, I'll dive into why no contact is effective in reestablishing your strong position and subjective value, even after instances of begging.

Inside the mind of your ex when you beg

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Understanding the psychological impact of begging on your ex is crucial to realizing why no contact is a better approach. When you beg for your ex to come back, you're inadvertently lowering your subjective value in their eyes, which can make you seem less attractive. Let's take a closer look at what goes on in the mind of your ex when you beg for their return.

  1. Perceived desperation: Even if you remain calm and composed while begging, your ex will likely perceive your actions as desperate. Desperation can be a significant turn-off, as it highlights your emotional dependence on the relationship. This will make your ex feel more in control, reducing their motivation to reunite with you.
  2. Lowered subjective value: Begging will lead your ex to view you as having a lower subjective value. When you plead with someone to come back to you, you're essentially admitting that you cannot live without them. This makes you appear weak and dependent, which is unattractive. By maintaining a strong position and not begging, you can preserve your subjective value and increase your chances of winning your ex back.
  3. Eroding respect: When you beg for your ex's return, you risk losing their respect. A relationship built on mutual respect is essential for a healthy and long-lasting partnership. By begging, you undermine the respect your ex once had for you, making it even more challenging to repair the relationship.
  4. Reinforcing their decision: Begging will inadvertently strengthen your ex's decision to end the relationship. When they see you in a weakened state, they might feel justified in their choice to break up. This can make it more difficult for them to reconsider their decision and come back to you.
  5. Potential for manipulation: When you beg, you risk opening the door to manipulation. Your ex may take advantage of your vulnerability and use it to control you or dictate the terms of a potential reconciliation. This can result in an unhealthy and imbalanced relationship dynamic, further hindering the chances of a successful reunion.
By recognizing the psychological effects of begging on your ex, you can better understand why no contact is a more effective strategy. By taking a step back, focusing on personal growth, and maintaining a strong position, you can increase your subjective value and reignite your ex's attraction. Remember, repairing a relationship takes time, patience, and dedication, but with the right approach, you can overcome the challenges and rekindle your love.

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Can No Contact Work After Begging?

Man in a classic suit kneeling before the girl begging her to come back
The short answer is yes, no contact can work even after begging. It doesn't matter whether you begged your ex for months or tried to actively win them back. No contact is effective because it addresses the root cause of a breakup, helping to reestablish your strong position and subjective value.

Based on hundreds of cases, no contact has proven to be successful in mending relationships even after instances of begging. During the no contact period, you should focus on self-improvement and personal growth. This includes enhancing your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. By investing in yourself, you'll become more confident and attractive, which in turn increases your subjective value in the eyes of your ex.

Knowledge is the source of your power. Now you know that begging is not the end; it's merely a hurdle to overcome. There's no need for anxiety anymore. By implementing the no contact rule, even after begging, you can work towards rebuilding your relationship and regaining your ex's attraction.


Key Points

No contact is an effective strategy for reestablishing your strong position and increasing your subjective value, even after begging
Begging does not address the root cause of a breakup and can have negative consequences, such as lowering your perceived value and eroding respect in the eyes of your ex
To successfully repair a relationship, focus on personal growth and address the actual reasons for the breakup instead of resorting to begging