This Is How Your Ex Hooked You Up (Contrast Of Emotions)

Remember your past relationship? Your ex would make plans and suggest dates, building up your hopes and dreams for a future together. However, just as you were getting excited about what was to come, your ex would cancel those plans at the last minute, leaving you feeling disappointed and questioning your own behavior.

What if I told you that this was all part of their grand design, a calculated move in their masterful use of the contrast of emotions technique?

The contrast of emotions technique creates a sense of uncertainty and emotional attachment. Your partner keeps you on your toes by alternating between warm and cold behaviors. You're constantly thinking about them. It's especially effective when applied in long-distance relationships.

For example, they might send many messages one day and then be completely silent the next. Or, they give you a lot of compliments, making you feel on top of the world. However, in a matter of days, their behavior changes drastically. They become distant and cold. They no longer give you the attention and validation that you were once accustomed to. Sometimes, they might even start criticizing you for every little mistake you make.

All of this can make you wonder what's going on and if you did something wrong. This creates an emotional response in you, as you question your own behavior and try to understand what might have caused the change in your partner's behavior. As a result, an emotional attachment is created. Yes, it's that simple.

There is a fine line between being playful and being emotionally manipulative. Your ex may have used the contrast of emotions technique as a tool for control, not connection. They used it as a means to control your emotions, and make you feel uncertain and emotionally attached to them, but it was all part of their own selfish agenda. This type of behavior is not healthy and it's important for you to recognize it as such.

The best way to counter manipulative behavior is to disengage. It's a recommended approach. The only alternative is to use some heavy artillery in response. Is it possible to win the game of manipulation? It's a challenging task, but we can get it done. But it's always better to find those who will be honest with you, and who will truly value you.

Be wary of those who play with your emotions, and remember that true love and connection are built on trust, honesty, and respect. Don't let anyone use these kinds of techniques to control or hurt you again.