The balance of power in a relationship refers to the level of dependence between partners, which can shift over time in response to conflicts, everyday situations, arguments, or debates. Keeping this balance in check is crucial for maintaining a healthy relationship.
What many online coaches may not tell you is that the primary goal of the ignoring strategy and no contact
is not to get your ex back. These methods/strategies/tools are actually designed to restore your sense of power and control in the relationship, which will in turn increase your attractiveness in the eyes of your ex. When your ex leaves you, you are at a power disadvantage and you're usually anxious, angry, or jealous. You feel the need to rebuild what was broken, while your ex does not care.
Think back to when your relationship was going well. Remember how caring your partner was and all the good moments you shared together. Now try to estimate the level of power you had at that time. It's likely that it was close to 50%, or possibly a little higher or lower. Then, something changed, maybe after a month or a couple of years...You started to feel a distance between you. Conflicts arose and it seemed as though it was your responsibility to initiate peace talks, change, and improve yourself. But as you tried to do this, your partner put more distance between you, and the power balance shifted. You lost control, your attraction level dropped, and your loved one left you.