The key to understanding how attraction works, and how to make your ex miss you, lies in understanding why mainstream methods—promoted in media, Hollywood movies—often not only fail but can further degrade the relationship, thus diminishing the chances of reconciliation. You're probably familiar with this classic narrative:
"A hard-working man is overly focused on his job, striving to provide his family with the highest standards of life. Meanwhile, his partner feels unappreciated and demands more time 'for herself.' The man attempts to rectify the situation, but she leaves him for some jerk. The man then fights to win back her affection, making grand gestures, 'changing,' 'improving,' all sorts of humiliating actions. In the end, they reunite."
This storyline, of course, is misleading. As we've discussed earlier, breakups occur due to a lack of attraction (this sounds stupidly simple, right?). And the attraction diminishes the moment an imbalance arises in the relationship
. The instant you occupy a weaker position in the relationship - becoming more emotionally invested or dependent than your partner - the imbalance grows, and attraction fades. The story you've frequently seen in movies doesn't describe how to recover your relationship; it details how to dig a deeper grave. If your partner leaves you, and you try to win them back using facts and logic, you essentially weaken your position further, which completely extinguishes the attraction.
With all of this in mind, let's discuss how to make your ex miss you.