Low contact is like walking on a tightrope:
every step you take - be it a text or call - can tilt the balance, causing you to lose footing. When you initiate communication, even with the best of intentions and utmost caution, it's like sending ripples across a still pond. Those ripples, to your ex, often translate as signals of neediness or dependency.There are, however, circumstances where communication becomes
a necessary part of daily life. Like two co-workers sharing the same office space or parents co-navigating the challenges of raising children post-separation. Here, the tightrope of "low contact" is somewhat broader, with a bit more room for maneuvering, but it still requires delicate navigation.Taking a step back, remember that post-breakup
, the dynamics have shifted dramatically. They've chosen a different path, essentially classifying you both as strangers on parallel tracks. In this new context, even the most innocent outreach can be perceived with a tint of skepticism. They might think, "Is this just a pretext to reconnect? An expression of lingering emotions?"
Such interactions, more often than not, tilt the power dynamics, placing you in a position of perceived lesser strength.
In the grand tapestry of post-breakup recovery, the threads of "low contact" often weave a pattern of delay and regression. Every initiative, every message, every call, no matter how innocent or pragmatic, can be a step back from healing. Essentially, "low contact" might not just hinder your personal growth but could inadvertently reduce the esteem in which you're held.
Now, let's delve deeper into why, in most scenarios, no contact proves to be the more beneficial route (If you want to skip the in-depth explanation and read more about low contact impact on post-breakup recovery first, jump to the fourth paragraph.)