Making this kind of resolution requires
an exceptional level of bravery and dedication. But since you've taken the time to read this far, I believe you are one of those committed individuals. For no contact to work both for you and your ex, you need to make a bold and deliberate decision: you will not be the one to initiate contact, nor will you entertain the idea of a reunion until your ex makes multiple sincere attempts at reconciliation. It's like setting a personal rule that you'll only respond to their texts or calls when they show consistent interest in mending the relationship, rather than just dropping a casual "Hey, how's it going?"
message out of the blue.Your ex will, in time, recognize their mistake
. They'll come to appreciate your true worth and will reach out to you
. They might even want to get back together. Be assured that these outcomes are certain. They are a done deal. And that's exactly why you're not going to allow yourself to dwell on these possibilities. As far as you're concerned, your no contact period is permanent until proven otherwise. There will be no steps backward, only forward. Just imagine it like you're embarking on a long journey, and looking back isn't an option. You're only focused on what lies ahead - a stronger, more resilient, and more fulfilled version of yourself.To help yourself shift your emotional gaze
away from the rearview mirror of your past relationship and towards the open road of the future, throw yourself into activities that demand your wholehearted engagement. Consider trying out thrilling pastimes like motorbiking or martial arts, that not only require your physical effort but also your mental acuity. It could even be diving headfirst into a new career or kick-starting that business idea that's been lingering at the back of your mind for a while. It's about immersing yourself in any new endeavor that stirs your curiosity and gives you a sense of purpose.Even if you have to go through the motions in the beginning
, do it anyway. Keep telling your mind that you're moving towards establishing a fulfilling relationship with yourself first, and that's why there's no need to dwell on the past. It's like giving your mind a clear message: "Hey, we're not going back there. We have a whole new world to explore right here, right now."
This is a difficult task, no doubt, but remember, it's often the most challenging tasks that bring about the most rewarding transformations. With time, your mind will gradually accept this new reality. It's like training a muscle: the more you practice redirecting your thoughts, the better you'll get at it. Just like a marathon runner who builds endurance with every mile, every small step you take away from your past will bring you closer to a stronger, happier, and more independent future.And then, something tremendously important will occur:
the balance between you and your ex will be restored in your mind as well. When your ex decides they want to reconcile, you'll either welcome them back, emanating calmness and confidence, or you'll choose to part ways - permanently, because you know you deserve better. As I've seen in countless cases, the decision will be entirely yours.