Ah, the temptation! That burning desire to just pick up the phone, to check in, to see if the silence has done its magic. But here’s the crux of the situation: reaching out in the midst of a no contact period
, especially with the premise of gauging if the other person has "had enough," fundamentally undermines the purpose of the no contact rule itself.
The name says it all, doesn’t it? No contact.
That doesn’t mean no contact except for a quick check-in. It means complete and utter silence. When you break that silence to ask something along the lines of "I haven’t talked to you in a week. Are you ready to get back?" several messages, whether intentional or not, are communicated: