How To Accelerate Healing In The Most Difficult Breakup And Divorce Situations
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As you can see, some pings may be disguised - for example, when an ex tries to gather information about you through your friends or relatives. In reality, they hope for you to initiate contact first. This is because they assume that you still desire their attention: "Wow, my ex asked about me. They must miss me. I should call them!" - and just like that, you've broken your no contact rule.
When you respond to a ping, it gives your ex the impression that you are still "there for them" and can reset the no contact process. This is why responding to pings can be so detrimental to the healing process. By not responding, you are taking control of the situation and making it clear that you are not going to be swayed by their attempts to contact you. This is especially important in situations where your ex left you for someone else or was unfaithful.
The benefits of the ignoring strategy in terms of emotional healing
When to use the ignoring strategy